Sexual Frustration: Part One

Sexual Frustration: Part One


You’re in the mood. Maybe even horny. Turned on. Revved up and ready to go. But for whatever setback, lack of partner, or roadblock you’re facing, you cannot find or reach the sexual satisfaction you desire. These irritated, agitated, or stressful feelings resulting from this lack of action and fulfilled needs is sexual frustration and can affect anyone.

This type of frustration is a natural response that many humans have over the course of their lifetime for one reason or another. It often highlights the imbalance in a person’s life with their sexual desires and the reality of their situation. These feelings are most often linked to people who have a “high sex drive,” when in reality is affects anyone who feels that their arousal needs are not being met with appropriate sexual activities- leading to stress and tension.

Human sexual behavior is complex and encompasses not only the physical and mental aspects of being a person, but also the emotional aspects. Sexual frustration can present differently in each individual and has been linked to causing or negatively affecting overall body health, increasing anxiety, depression, recklessness, and anger.

Having unmet sexual needs and desires in life can trigger an overall feeling of discontentment. Sexual frustration is not to be mistaken for libido. This frustration is a common issue for men and women alike. Many factors can make this issue better or even worse. Some of those contributing factors are age, gender, sexuality, relationship status, sexual inactivity, dissatisfaction, or even sexual dysfunction.


How Sexual Frustration Impacts Overall Health & Life

In a 2021 study conducted by Lankford, it was found that sexual frustration increased the risk of violence, aggression, and crime. It also proved how sexual frustration can also negatively impact a person’s efficiency in the workplace.

Evidence in numerous studies correlating the links between sexual frustration and the breakdown of daily life also showed that those who are sexually frustrated regularly may also be struggling with their mental health.

A person showing signs of sexual frustration might also be showing signs of reckless behavior, at an increasing rate. In an attempt to quelch their sexual urges and needs, the person may begin engaging in riskier sexual behaviors and acts, which could then lead to unintentional health problems, unwanted pregnancies, or sexually transmitted infections (NIH).

This type of frustration also hinders relationships, as feelings of unmet needs sexually can create barriers with communication and connection or even create a relationship disconnect. Sexual relationships play a crucial role in the connectedness between partners or married couples.


Sexual Frustration is Different for All

In various studies reported by the NIH and Lankford, males often report more significant sexual distress from sexual problems than their female counterparts. In these same studies, females are noted as reporting greater overall sexual satisfaction- but it does not report on if this was from partnered sexual acts, or singular sexual acts with the self.

Many studies conducted fail to report if the sexual frustration being felt by either partner is due to an issue with sexual dysfunction. If sexual dysfunction issues are leading to the main cause of the feelings of sexual frustration, there are many actions and therapies that can be learned to help combat these issues, helping to bring sex and intimacy back into a relationship. If you are facing sexual frustration feelings from dysfunction, please reach out to your medical care team for direction.

In a 2020 study published by the Journal of Medicine, it was noted that bisexual and LGBTQIA individuals are often more dissatisfied with their sex lives than their heterosexual counterparts. More studies are being conducted on sexual health and wellness in the LGBTQIA+ community.


For more in sexual frustration, look for our Sexual Frustration: Part Two, which discusses symptoms, potential causes, and treatments available.



Resources Used:

Reclaiming Intimacy


Lankford Study

2020 Study on BiSexual Humans



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